This post is going to be broken up into a couple of parts, this first part is going to examine the situation of life challenges and how they can lead into a situation that paralyzes us and why
At some point in your life you will be confronted with a major challenge that will bring you to a screeching halt and leave you in a situation where you feel paralyzed and unable to find a way to move forward.
An assault on your core values
These situations have the power to bring you to your knees (either physically or metaphorically) because they are either an assault on your core values or beliefs to such an extent that our very existence seems challenged, or they create a conflict between your core values and beliefs.
In either case the situation demands decisions, and often decisions that you are unaccustomed to making or a choice between multiple options each of which may have uncertain or less than optimal outcomes. The need for these decisions can lead you into a psychological condition called decision paralysis or analysis paralysis.
What is decision or analysis paralysis?
There are a wide range of descriptions of decision or analysis paralysis but essentially it refers to a situation where your decision can be treated as over-complicated, with too may detailed options so that you cannot make a choice, rather than you trying something and changing if a major problem arises. You might be seeking the optimal or perfect solution upfront and fear making any decision which could lead to erroneous results, when on the way to a better solution.
The paralysis is caused by a number of common distortions in your thinking while you are contemplating a decision.
- All or nothing thinking – thinking in terms of absolutes
- Over generalization – using isolated examples to make wide generalizations
- Creating a mental filter – focusing on usually negative or upsetting aspects while ignoring positives
- Disqualifying positives – dismissing positives for arbitrary or ad hoc reasons
- Jumping to conclusions – drawing (usually negative) conclusions from little or no evidence
- Magnification – distorting aspects of the situation so that they do not correspond with objective reality by making them more significant than they really are
- Minimization – distorting aspects of the situation so that they do not correspond with objective reality by making them less significant that they really are
- Emotional Reasoning – making decisions based on intuition rather than objective rationale and evidence
- “should” statements – statements about the way things should or ought to be that ignore the situational reality
- Personalization – attributing personal blame or accountability for events over which you have no control
In the next part of this series we will continue to explore how you can really discover who you are when life throws crap at you, but for now
Can you identify any situations in your life where these thinking distortions have occurred? What did you do to overcome these distortions? Share your response in the comments it might help some-one else experiencing a similar circumstance.
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