Exploring Resilience via Lifes Burning Issues

Author: Mick Morris (Page 63 of 93)

What would four years of your life look like?

During the last week my son participated in the examinations for the Royal Australian College of Paediatricians.

Samuel’s role is as a patient for the doctors doing their final exams in order to become qualified Paediatricians.

Part of the examination process is a review of the patients history and an assessment of their current needs and medical issues. When we entered the room to speak with the examiners prior to the first candidate we were confronted with the pile of papers in the picture above.

This pile represents four years of medical history since Samuel’s accident.

Examining your life (or a part of it)

The examiners spend around 40 minutes with the patient getting an overall history, doing a physical examination and then exploring a range of questions around the current issues and most pressing needs of the patient.

When the examination candidate doctors come in they have an hour to repeat the process.

An expert has 2/3 rds the amount of time as a relative novice to determine what the most important points in this history are, what the most pressing needs are and to think about a plan for how to deal with those needs.

As mentioned that photo represents four years of medical history…. but that is only part of the overall picture of Samuel’s life.

What are the important points?

If an expert or a novice was given the opportunity to spend 40 mins or an hour examining your life (or even a four year slice of it),  how big would the pile of papers be that represent that history? In your opinion what would be the most important points.

What questions would you want them to ask you, where would you want them to focus and how would you like them to plan to address these needs?

Think about it and let me know !

Getting the best solution to every problem

Why? image by Kyle Pheland

Why?

This is a familiar question for most people, and anyone who has had any exposure to toddlers will tell that it is a question that can be used to effectively drive you mad.

However, this question is one of the most powerful questions you have available to you to help you get the best possible solution to every single one of your problems.

Why?

If you honestly ask yourself this question and spend time to honestly answer it, and then ask it and answer it again, and again, and again, you will help yourself unpack both the critical elements of the problem confronting you, and the critical elements of the solution.

Why?

Let’s go back to the example of the toddler. A toddler asks why, and how do we respond? We tell them that x happens because y.

What is the toddlers immediate response to that answer? You guessed it…why? What do you do then? You unpack the next part of the puzzle and provide an answer to that part. The toddler doesn’t say ahhh that makes it clear, thanks! No, they immediately say WHY?

The toddler will keep you engaged in this endless process of asking why until one of two things happen.

1. They completely exhaust your knowledge on a given subject, and you get to the point of saying …. “Just because it is!”, or

2. You have provided a stream of answers that satisfies the childs curiosity on the subject because they “get” it and feel that they understand the thing they were asking about.

Why?

If you follow this process of asking and answering why in relation to the problem you are trying to solve you will get to a point where the only answer is because it is what it is, it can’t be unpacked any further.

At this point you will have reached the core of the issue, and should have a very clear picture of the components of the problem.

This process is also likely to get you to a point where you feel like you simply get it, probably because you will have eliminated a great deal of uncertainty by forcing yourself to take a close look at what is truly motivating your responses to the why’s.

I’m encouraging you to ask questions like a three year old and answer the like an adult and see what amazing answers you come up with to you problems!

Let me know in the comments what you find out about your problems when you question the like a three year old.

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