The Mick Morris Musing

Exploring Resilience via Lifes Burning Issues

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Revisiting the start of it all

This is where it started

If you have been here a while you will have seen how I got started with this blog.  I have taken my personal experience of my son’s non-fatal drowning and taken it in a particular direction.

I spend a lot of time building the Samuel Morris Foundation working hard to ensure that children like Samuel get the best possible quality of life and working hard to prevent future drowning deaths and disabilities through education and awareness. I am also maintaining my career as a professional firefighter, and working on building this blog and my associated goals for it. This means that my wife is the one that takes most of the burden of caring for Samuel (I do as much as I can, but the reality is it is NOWHERE near the level of care that Jo-ann provides).

I’m really proud of the way that my wife has dealt with such a difficult experience, and really appreciate the energy that she puts into maintaining Samuel’s health and looking after our two girls (and me!).

While this blog has been a way to explore my thinking process and often the deep recesses of my mind, Jo-ann’s blog is a way of exploring the personal and family experience. She has taken up the blogging challenge to try and let people know what the family experience is really like after a member of a family is left severely disabled by a non-fatal drowning. You can find her blog HERE.

The vast majority of people have no idea what the consequences of non-fatal drowning are and just how prevalent these events are. So I would really appreciate it if you would drop by Jo-ann’s blog take a peak at what life is like in the background of this blog and encourage her to continue to share our story. After you have read her blog I would also encourage you to visit the Samuel Morris Foundation and make a donation to help us look after children like Samuel and stop our experience happening to other families.

When to cut them loose?

A recent comment on one of my posts talked about cutting loose the negative characters in your life.

This was a really interesting comment and one which prompted a bit of a gut reaction.

My response was that everyone deserves a compassionate response and we should only contemplate removing them from our circle of influence after we are comfortable that we have provided such a compassionate response to them.

We all have our negative times in life, for whatever reason, and we all need other people to invest their energy in us at some stage, even if we are usually full of energy ourselves and able to cope with most things in life. When we hit these periods I am sure we would all like to think that we could rely on others to provide us with a bit of a boost, without simply deciding to cut us loose.

For some people it does become clear that no matter how much we invest in them these characters are not going to change and are going to continue to be energy suckers.

It does raise an interesting question though.

What is the threshold for determining that you have done all that you can?

How do you determine that you have done all you can for the negative characters in your life? Let us know in the comments.

 

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