Exploring Resilience via Lifes Burning Issues

Category: Children (Page 18 of 18)

A sad reflection on choices.

Gavel by WalknBoston

Gavel by WalknBoston

My Period of Reflection
 
I have been quiet here for a bit…. and that is because I have been participating in a Coroners Inquest into the drowning deaths of eight children. Each of these deaths is an absolute tragedy. Sadly toddler drowning deaths, and children being left severely disabled by non-fatal drowning accidents, occur all too frequently. In the developed world drowning is one of the top three causes of accidental death in children aged 0-4.

Being in the middle of a series of posts on choices, my time in the court was a cause for a great deal of reflection on the subject of choices, and on the consequences that can flow from seemingly harmless choices by a wide range of people.

Systems choices and the perfect storm

The choices that lead to the deaths of these children were not just choices made by parents or caregivers, they were also systems choices made by people . Choices  State Governments to ignore previous recommendations from Coroners to improve regulation and compliance with Swimming Pool fencing laws. Choices by  local government to not implement inspections and choices to not follow up on development applications. Choices made by real estate agents in leasing premises without regard to the safety of the pool. Choices made by landlords about what they would and would not repair. Choices made by retailers of swimming pools about what information they provide regarding the safety of swimming pools and the need for them to be fenced and comply with legislation.

Any single one of these decisions on their own would seem to be inconsequential, but as happens all too often, numerous choices not to act or choices to ignore result in a “perfect storm” and someone pays the price. Sadly in relation to swimming pools it is often a young child.

The Stigma

Many people often place the “blame” solely on the parents of children who have drowned without looking at the systemic issues involved. I have responded to one Journalist who is against proactive measures to reduce toddler drownings here.  Anyone with children will tell you that you cannot keep your eyes on them 24/7, it is impossible.

Maybe part of the reason it is so hard to effect change in this area is because of the stigma that people place on the parents of a child who has drowned/near drowned, that causes them to be very reluctant to speak out about the circumstances and issues surrounding the event. The additional fear of backlash after telling their story only serves to compound the grief and guilt that they already feel, and it always comes from those who say they ALWAYS watch their children.

Society in General

We all have a responsibility to help keep ALL of our children safe. We all have a responsibility to do what we can to prevent the leading causes of accidental death of our young children………

what would you be prepared to do to help save the life of a toddler……. how would you help stop the tragedy of child  death and disability from drowning….. I’d love to hear your suggestions……..

How would you talk to a disabled child – with Passion?

Photo by Adam Hollingworth

Photo by Adam Hollingworth

Thanks to Rachel Browne for her article in the SunHerald newspaper “a life time of caring for kids saved from water”, highlighting the plight of children disabled by non-fatal drowning, and highlighting the tragic statistics associated with drowning in Australia.

During this process we had the good fortune to have Adam Hollingworth do the photo shoot. It was clear that Adam was passionate about what he does. But what I really appreciated was Adam’s interaction with Samuel.

Too often people when talking to children like Samuel direct their questions/comments etc at the parents and talk about the child like they don’t exist. They assume that just because the child is severely disabled, and is unable to communicate in words, that they are unable to grasp anything.

Not Adam, he hit the nail on the head! He spoke directly to Samuel, interacting with him on the assumption that Samuel knows what is going on and would respond in his own way. Which he does! So thanks Adam, an example of a professional and personal approach to your work that was truly appreciated.

The Sun Herald issue focused on a number of safety issues, and it was interesting to read the editorial, which talked about our failure as a society to address some of the risks that we face when dealing with water.

The preparation for the Rachel Browne article came on the top of this story about a missing autistic child. Sadly the toddler was subsequently found in the river after he had drowned, continuing the sad story of child drownings.

It was also interesting to contrast some of the other articles in the paper such as this article on the syndrome of cotton wool treatment of children.

It is an interesting debate about how far we take safety for our children. I am passionate about caring for our kids, but somethings featured in the cotton wool article above are just taking it too far.

How far would you go to protect your child? How far is too far? Let me know…

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