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Is the Glass Half Empty or Half Full?

A glass - Half empty of half full?

Half-Empty?

This is a guest post by Ben Klempner. Ben is an accomplished Social Worker with a couple of books under his belt and experience helping people deal with a wide range of issues including; anger management, addiction recovery; marriage, family and career counselling, depression, grief and anxiety.  So over to you Ben……………….

Last night as I was lying in bed I got around to thinking what to write for a blog that’s about “turning life’s crap into fertilizer.” Then it came to me….. Here it is.

Ten negative affirmations turned positive

“Life’s so unfair”  can be turned into “life’s full of interesting turns of events”

“The sky’s overcast” can be turned into ” The cloud formations are dark and beautiful”

“It looks like it is going to rain” can be turned into “The reservoirs and vegetation could really use some rain”

“I’m miserable” can be turned into “I’m ready to make some changes”

“My job stinks!” can be turned into “It’s time to start connecting with the people I work with on a more meaningful level”

“I have no friends” can be turned into “I need to start meeting new people”

“My family life is the pits” can be turned into “My family life could use some improvement”

“I’ll probably fail this test” can be turned into “I wonder what I will learn from this test about myself and my knowledge?”

“My friends and family are all sick and tired of me” can be turned into “My friends and family care about me and would like to see me putting my best foot forward”

“My television broke and now I have nothing to do” can be turned into ” My television broke. Now I have time to walk outside and breathe some fresh air.

Go ahead… in the comments section below let us know some of your own negative affirmations turned positive.

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How to be right – maybe

 

 


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“being right is highly over-rated, even a stopped clock is right twice a day” – unknown

Remember the last time that you were involved in a “conversation” in which the person you were talking to just had to be right?

Or was that someone was talking to you and YOU just HAD to be RIGHT!

The quote at the start of this post makes an important point…….even a stopped clock is right twice a day…..but what value is a stopped clock to us in living our lives.

The stopped clock only serves to confuse us. Unless we have another time piece to measure it by,  we never know at which two points in the day the clock is actually right, and the sad part is that despite the clock being right for two minutes every day, it is wrong for 1338 minutes a day.

By anyone’s mathematics that is not a great ratio of rightness to wrongness.

The stopped clock does not help us to measure time or to know when to do things, in fact it does not help us do anything except collect some dust.

When we reserve all rights in our interactions with others we are acting like the stopped clock. We are stuck in a place / time /position. The problem with acting like a stopped clock is that we have no way of measuring at which point or points we are ACTUALLY RIGHT? 

Holding our place / time / position means it leads us be wrong for the other 1338 potential opportunities in the day. So being RIGHT for that proverbial two minutes represents a proverbial 1338 minutes of lost opportunity. It also means that we are adding NO value to the interaction, and the dust that we collect is that of lost friendships,  shrinking relationships and a heap of lost potential.

Do you want to be RIGHT, or would you rather have another 1338 opportunities to add value?

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